How do you mend a broken heart
When your
car breaks down or is in need of a repair, you usually take it to someone you
trust or to a referral from a trusted friend. Regardless of which one, it has
to be fixed in order for you to maintain your activities. This example could be
used for any item that you use on a regular basis; the refrigerator, lawnmower,
microwave, or any number of things you would have difficulty living without.
Let's look at what to do when something really precious breaks.
You remember the BeeGees song "How Can You Mend a Broken Heart"? Folks, when the heart breaks, unlike one of the material objects in the first paragraph, serious stuff happens. This is much bigger than food spoiling or the yard not getting mowed. A broken heart is a true silent killer. The question that comes to mind for me is, like the song, how DO you mend a broken heart?
If you were to ask for advice, a well-meaning friend would gladly share an opinion but the problem is after they give that advice, they go back to living their life and you take your broken heart with you still not mended. What causes the heart to break? Just today I got an email from a woman who has a son that has been in and out of rehab and has lapsed yet again. Her heart is hurting beyond words. Most people cannot see the pain but it is almost unbearable to her.
You remember the BeeGees song "How Can You Mend a Broken Heart"? Folks, when the heart breaks, unlike one of the material objects in the first paragraph, serious stuff happens. This is much bigger than food spoiling or the yard not getting mowed. A broken heart is a true silent killer. The question that comes to mind for me is, like the song, how DO you mend a broken heart?
If you were to ask for advice, a well-meaning friend would gladly share an opinion but the problem is after they give that advice, they go back to living their life and you take your broken heart with you still not mended. What causes the heart to break? Just today I got an email from a woman who has a son that has been in and out of rehab and has lapsed yet again. Her heart is hurting beyond words. Most people cannot see the pain but it is almost unbearable to her.
Most of us
think about broken relationships when we think of broken hearts. That certainly
is an issue but trust me, that causes the least amount of pain in the long term
because we are trained to adapt to loss. Short-term relationship loss can seem
traumatic at the time and, sad to say, some people are tempted to take drastic
measures to move out of those situations.
I see people with dead-end jobs and not enough money to pay bills; that is a heart breaker too. Shattered dreams that possibly lead to an embarrassment like bankruptcy can destroy a person's pride. I think by now you get the picture. So what do we do?
There is no cookie-cutter textbook answer but I can say this and feel competent in saying it, lending an ear and genuinely caring makes a huge difference. Consider this; if a friend calls you just to say they are thinking about you, would you not feel better? Of course it would. How about if a friend who invites you for a walk in the park just because they care enough to reach out, I bet that would go a long way. It is the small things in life that matter the most. It is not the do-good religious that just want to give you a dose of something that means more to them than you; it is the genuine outreach of love from people who have no interest in making you look bad. The only interest they have is helping to carry you long enough that you can get back on your feet. And by the way, while you are carrying someone, NO ONE need know what you are doing.
A heart is a terrible thing to break. It is not like Humpty Dumpty at all; the heart keeps ticking when it breaks. But you know the pain and you know the ticking gets tougher and tougher until you silently pray for it all to end. We can help it end in a wonderful way by caring enough to love the people close to us. We cannot stop death or loss, but we can stop some of the pain that surrounds it. We are social communal creatures and when we bond with others in a loving peaceful fashion, it will help in those times the heart is hurting.
Lets team up and do our part to heal the broken hearts and who knows, it may be your heart that is breaking and made whole again. Lean on me when you're not strong.
I see people with dead-end jobs and not enough money to pay bills; that is a heart breaker too. Shattered dreams that possibly lead to an embarrassment like bankruptcy can destroy a person's pride. I think by now you get the picture. So what do we do?
There is no cookie-cutter textbook answer but I can say this and feel competent in saying it, lending an ear and genuinely caring makes a huge difference. Consider this; if a friend calls you just to say they are thinking about you, would you not feel better? Of course it would. How about if a friend who invites you for a walk in the park just because they care enough to reach out, I bet that would go a long way. It is the small things in life that matter the most. It is not the do-good religious that just want to give you a dose of something that means more to them than you; it is the genuine outreach of love from people who have no interest in making you look bad. The only interest they have is helping to carry you long enough that you can get back on your feet. And by the way, while you are carrying someone, NO ONE need know what you are doing.
A heart is a terrible thing to break. It is not like Humpty Dumpty at all; the heart keeps ticking when it breaks. But you know the pain and you know the ticking gets tougher and tougher until you silently pray for it all to end. We can help it end in a wonderful way by caring enough to love the people close to us. We cannot stop death or loss, but we can stop some of the pain that surrounds it. We are social communal creatures and when we bond with others in a loving peaceful fashion, it will help in those times the heart is hurting.
Lets team up and do our part to heal the broken hearts and who knows, it may be your heart that is breaking and made whole again. Lean on me when you're not strong.
Peace and
love
Dale
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