Passionate Loving

Where do you find your reasons for hope? As many of you know life has a way of beating you down, lifting you up and throwing you down again. I believe we are either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis, or heading into a crisis. We can hedge our bets and do our best to make sure our lives are uneventful but that would mean living in a padded cell and never seeing the light of day. Life is a series of choices, not just yours, that make up what our past, present, and future looks like.

If you are standing in the pouring rain it is hard to see the sun shining above the clouds, so too with life. There are times we have no choice but to walk out in the rain but that doesn't mean we can't take an umbrella. That too is life, we do in fact have to walk in and out of situations but we can try hard to avoid those that bring negativity to our lives. 

Last week I wrote about judging people, and how when we judge we can't love. Let's take that a step further. When we judge we lose the ability to see life through the eyes of the suffering. The way you view someone's life is not the way their life really is. The way you view the world is not the way the world really is. We can't see the real life struggles of others when our lives are consumed by bitterness, gossip, revenge, and hate. Being passionate, loving, accepting, and forgiving reveals the depth of a caring heart. People need our hearts not our opinions. They need our love not our advice. Friends often need our silent presence more than they need words of wisdom. 

In life we make mistakes, that is our human nature, always has been always will be. If however instead of exploiting those mistakes and rubbing them in our faces we embraced, forgave, and accepted people for their humanity it would be amazing how much better life could be. 

I feel your pain, do you really? Been there done that, have you really? The answer is no, you cannot feel the pain of others nor have you ever walked exactly in their shoes. Some people do a great job masking the pain of their lives with smiles and a positive external persona. The reality is that there is often times serious wounds causing pain beyond our imagination. Life is not a bed of roses as we often perceive it be, yet to the suffering they cannot trust anyone with their emotions. Think about what I just said, the suffering cannot trust anyone with their emotions. Can you be trusted with someone's heart and emotions. Can you listen with kindness and love or do you listen with a cynical mind and cold heart. The truth of yourself might surprise you. Remember the way you see yourself IS NOT THE WAY OTHERS SEE YOU.

We listen with a cynical mind, we embrace with a cold heart, we touch with callous hands, we advise without love and understanding, we share wisdom that satisfies our agenda, we lack forgiveness because it heals, basically we have lost the art of what being a friend should be. 

I am passionate about healing hearts, forgiving souls, and loving all people. I, like everyone, have made my share of mistakes. I, like everyone, have been held bound to my mistakes. I learned to take my experiences and help those suffering emotionally find who they are again. I am passionate about second chances, new beginnings, fresh starts. I am passionate about living for today, having hope for tomorrow, while packing up and moving out of yesterday. I am passionate about HOPE because hope is what provides for life. 

If you care you share, what you share is your heart and soul. It isn't advise people need most of the time it is understanding. When the eyes of the suffering get pale and shallow hope is draining rapidly. Let's reach down and lift someone up today, not for glory but for love. No words need to be spoken to be kind and remember there is no wrong way to perform an act of kindness. We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone. Remember you get what you give so if your life is filled with drama look at what you are giving. Drama does not find you, you either accept it, invite, or create it. 

In closing this blog full of rambling paragraphs that seem to intertwine into a mass conglomeration of nothing, let me say how important it is to love people for who they are and where they are. If you can't be kind to someone at least be quiet. To have a friend you must be a friend, real friends do not hurt real friends even when they feel hurt and betrayed. Think about that for a moment. As for me I will continue to choose to love, accept, and forgive people. Life is too precious to waste and if our hearts can join with love and not bitterness we can make this world a better place.

peace to you

Dale